On Rape Culture

The Women’s Center at Marshall offers the following definition of “rape culture:”

Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture. Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women’s rights and safety.

I would summarize that definition like, “Rape culture happens when people (especially men) feel empowered and admired for sexually consuming women as objects rather than persons.”

Based on that explanation, I can see easily where our culture gravitates towards enabling rape. Pornography is still a multi billion dollar industry. Many social models of masculinity emphasize womanizing. All reasonable people could agree that the elimination of such social fixtures would be positive for culture on a whole.

The problem, at least from where I’m sitting, is that “rape culture” has assumed a memetic role in the context of feminist sexology. I don’t feel comfortable when the term comes up mainly because I’m never quite sure what it means. Is it about women being sexually mistreated? Is it about cultural misogyny and sexual commodities? Or is it a stinging indictment of non-feminist sexual ethics?

When people like E.J. Graff say that purity culture is rape culture, where is my opportunity for pushback? Graff’s statement has so completely conflated the question of sexual autonomy with that of sexual safety and health that anyone who doesn’t subscribe to a progressive view of sexuality is left with an impossible choice: Do you want women to be safe or “pure”?

One of the problems with feminism is that it sets up definitions and categories that self-referentially exclude the possibility of dissent. I’ve personally been called a supporter of women’s deaths because I am pro-life. The only way that accusation could be true is if the question of reproductive autonomy is totally conflated with the issue of women’s health and well-being. For many feminists, those are conflated. You cannot be pro-women without being pro-feminism.

When the idea of preventing rape culture is applied to conversations about our cultural consciousness, you see this conflation take place. A straightforward example was some of the reaction to the UC Santa Barbara killer. The shooter’s stunningly hateful and violent rhetoric towards women in the lead up to the shooting invited much response, appropriately so. But a lot of that conversation managed to turn the subject of violence against women inside out, so that non-feminist ideology found itself in the dock. “Traditional masculinity has to die,” said one writer. “If you’re a man, you’re a part of rape culture,” said another. At some point it becomes obvious that the physical violation of a woman is not what is meant by “rape” in “rape culture.” It means something broader, something different, something that isn’t being admitted at first turn.

What we are seeing is rape being used memetically. “Rape culture” has become a flag for any macro-cultural consciousness that doesn’t fully subscribe to feminist theory. It’s a conglomeration of many debatable tenets of feminism rolled into a definitional structure that makes enemies of feminist philosophy enemies of women. I’m not  saying that all feminists who talk about the prevalence or tendency towards rape are using it as a mechanism to score against the “patriarchy” (though I think some do). But there’s something wrong here. There’s something just off about the conversation, something no one is really mentioning but that puts the whole discussion in a defensive, rather than proactive, posture.

An example of what’s wrong could be found at Swarthmore College. Swarthmore is a vintage progressive university, certainly not “purity culture” or “patriarchal.” It is a vestige of everything, culturally speaking, feminists expect a fully sexually tolerant environment to be. The only problem: It’s not. The school is currently awash in a serious scandal over ignored reporting of rape and rampant sexual abuse. What created the rape culture at Swarthmore? It certainly wasn’t a lack of gender education or diversity training. Could it be that progressive values are not as good at creating a positive environment for women as feminists think?

That’s another problem with the rape culture meme: It tends to not be so much about rape, just culture. While it certainly would not eliminate the possibility of sexual assault, why haven’t more schools considered single sex dorms? Catholic University president John Garvey made the move for his school in 2011, citing his desire to reduce alcohol abuse and “hook-up culture.” That seems to me a worthy goal. Much research links casual sex to depression and other psychological maladies. Wouldn’t measures like single sex dorms be useful in the fight against rape culture?  Feminists don’t think so. Molly Jane Knefel says indicting hook up culture is “ahistorical,” “paternalistic” and is in fact a rehashing of “blame the victim.”

I don’t understand this at all. Why are modern feminists so allergic to any sexual ethic other than “Just do it”? Is the risk of invoking, say, a Judeo-Christian view of marriage and sexuality just too great? Thus the great irony of liberalism presents itself once again: Unwilling to invoke moral norms, yet trying to create societies in which moral norms are (inexplicably) followed. Perhaps that tragic irony expressed itself in this screenshot I took while doing research for this post. Read the headline, then look at the links above it:


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It’s interesting to wonder if any males like me were reading up on their feminism, saw clickbait about a stripper, and suddenly got off track. Surely, if nothing else, preventing rape culture can start with digging sex out of the gutter that the sexual revolution has buried it in for a generation.




  1. Spinning For Difficulty · June 16, 2014

    1. Rape is against the law.

    2. If you are a man being labelled ‘a rapist of women’ is about the worst thing that can happen to you. It will destroy your social life. Destroy your career. It may even put you in danger, especially from men who often regard it their duty as a man to punish other men who rape women. If you end up in jail you will be viewed as the lowest of the low even by the criminals in there. And you will probably be repeatedly raped.

    3. If you are unsure about society’s attitudes to men raping women, just stand up on a bus, or in a shopping mall, or during a job interview and proclaim “I raped a woman last night”. Then take note of the reaction.

    Now here comes the logic bit.

    A ‘rape culture’ is a culture which condones or is apathetic about the issue of rape. As the above points ably demonstrate, society is the exact opposite of that. Therefore we do NOT live in a ‘rape culture’ when it comes to the rape of girls and women by men. In a ‘rape culture’ rape would be a lesser issue than it is ….. closer to the issue of downloading music illegally, or being a bad driver.

    However, society is far more apathetic when it comes to the issue of the rape of boys and men, especially when the rapist is a women. If there is a ‘rape culture’ then this is it. When was the last time you heard about a boy or man being raped on the news? …or a woman rapist? … where is the support for male rape victims? Why do so many people still believe men cannot even BE raped? Where is the outrage when feminists like Adele Mercier define the rape of underage boys by adult women to be ‘not rape’? Why do women who rape boys so often get off with light sentences or no sentences at all? All of these things point to a ‘rape culture’.

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